Joyce Meyer - Dying to Live - Part 1 (02/23/2025)
Joyce Meyer shares how classic books on holiness and dying to self transformed her early walk with Christ, contrasting them with modern self-focused teachings. From 1 Corinthians 3 and other Scriptures, she stresses that spiritual maturity shows in our words and actions—complaining reveals lack of trust, gossip shows lack of love—while embracing conviction and denying self leads to real growth, freedom, and the ability to glorify God fully.
You know, I thank God for books because it was a lot of books that helped me in the healing that I needed when I began a relationship with Jesus. And one of those books was… I read a lot of old books. I read a lot of books that were written in the 16th and 17th century. And, you know, people back then had a different relationship and attitude toward God than some of the modern Christianity. We kind of look at God like he’s there to give us everything we want and to fix all of our problems, but they didn’t look at it like that at all. I mean, they wanted to live holy lives and they talked a lot about things like I’m talking about this weekend, about dying to self.
Old Books on Holiness and Dying to Self
And so, one of the books I read was called «Dying to Live». And that’s what I titled this message tonight. I would have loved to have named the book that, but I was afraid nobody would buy it because it’s not a very exciting title. But the truth is, we have to die to self, self-centeredness, me, what I want, what I think, what I feel. And like Chris said tonight, «Elevate the truth of God’s word above all of those things». And Paul talked to the Corinthians who were spirit-filled, had the gifts of the spirit, and he said, «You’re all still just a bunch of babies. You’re immature and you’re babies». And he goes on to tell 'em, «You’re jealous and you covet and you’re greedy and you do all these different things». And one of the things he said is, «You’re not able to talk yet».
It says that in the Amplified Bible. «You’re not able to talk yet». It’s in 1 Corinthians 3. And so, your mouth is what gives expression to your soul. So, we might say it’s part of the soul too. And you can locate where you’re at spiritually and you can locate where other people are at spiritually just by listening to what they say. And when you find somebody complaining all the time, that’s somebody that’s not trusting God. When you find somebody that’s gossiping about other people all the time, that’s somebody who’s not walking in love. And you need to protect yourself and choose people to be around, for the most part, not that you don’t ever want to be around people who need your example, but for the most part, you wanna make your close relationships people that can challenge you by their behavior, just by their behavior. «I want to be like you». Be around people that you want to be like, not people that you used to be like. Amen?
Choose Edifying Company
And so, I read a lot of books by Watchman Nee. I read a lot of books by Madame Guyon. I read a lot of, I probably read everything in Andrew Murray’s library. I read things on obedience and things that would help me grow. And it bothers me that people today go for the stuff that’s gonna get them something instead of going for the things that’s gonna help them be what Jesus has called them to be. And Priscilla said it so well this morning: Jesus is coming back. It’s not just something we say. He is coming back. And so many of the Old Testament prophecies have already been fulfilled. I think there’s only like 30 left, I heard, recently, to be fulfilled. And things are moving pretty fast in our world.
And so, I don’t know if Jesus will come back in our lifetime, but it’s not gonna be long. And he’s gonna return. And we are gonna be asked to give an account. Romans said that, «Every man will stand before God and give an account of his life». Now, that’s not talking about your salvation. You’re saved by the grace of God, not by your works. But your works give you rewards when you get to heaven. The Bible talks a lot about the rewards that will be waiting for us when we get to heaven or we can just blow the whole thing and not have any rewards. Well, I don’t intend to spend my whole life doing this just to get there and have to still be in kindergarten trying to grow up spiritually. I’d like to hold a nice meeting with Moses and Joseph and, you know, some of the big guys. Maybe preach with Jesus sometime. That would be nice.
And so, the things that I’m talking to you about this weekend, they’re not necessarily real easy to hear. They’re not the kind of things that people shout and clap about. But if you don’t hear these things, you’ll never shout and clap. You’ll never end up being really happy. Because as long as we stay carnal and fleshly, our lives are not pleasing to God. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t love us. But our lives, the way we’re living is not pleasing to God. Two times the father spoke out of heaven and said of Jesus, «This is my beloved son in whom I am well pleased».
Live to Please God – Not Self
And I hope that God can say that about me when he looks at me. And I hope that he can say that about you when he looks at you. And each one of us has to make our own decision. You can’t just do what your friends are doing. You can’t just do what other family members are doing. You can’t just do what even your pastor is doing sometimes. You have to make a decision how you’re going to live. And I hope this weekend that some of you make that decision to go for it all. To really make your mind up that you understand that being a Christian means to be a follower of Jesus Christ. Being a Christian doesn’t mean I go to church on Sunday like Priscilla said, «I dip in and dip out». «I dip in on Sunday morning and dip right back into sin on Monday morning».
We don’t ever wanna take it for granted. Well, because God forgives us that we can just do things and live sloppy lives. Now, like I said, this has nothing to do with your salvation. If you believe in Jesus and you’ve received him, you don’t buy your salvation with any kind of good works. But if you have let God really love you and you’ve spent that time getting to know the father, like Priscilla said this morning, and you got a close relationship with God where you know he loves you and you love him, you cannot continue in sin. The Bible says «It is impossible for you to continue purposely, habitually sinning because God lives in you». Matter of fact, the Amplified Bible says «The divine sperm of God lives in you». And that’s talking about Jesus.
Growth Through Conviction – No Stagnation
So, I tell people, literally, «You’re pregnant with God. He’s in you and he wants to grow up». But you know, before you give birth, you have what they call labor pains. Amen? And so, you know, they tell women when you’re giving birth, «Don’t fight against the pain, just relax. And the more you relax, the easier it’s going to be». And then they’d say, «Breathe, just breathe». And you’re not gonna like what I’m getting ready to say, but I know it to be the truth. See, I’m old enough now that I can just say whatever I want to and I don’t care. And you have a hard time telling me I’m wrong because I’ve lived through it. And you can be 20 and disagree with me. But the time you get to be 80, you’ll say, «Well», you’ll be telling somebody else. Amen?
And so many of the things that we don’t like in our life, the things that we call «Suffering,» and I don’t even know that we know what suffering is. But by the way, that word is in the Bible a whole bunch of times. Amen? And sometimes, a lot of the places where we suffer is in our soul. It hurts when you have to forgive somebody that has really done you wrong. You feel that pain in your soul. But instead of fighting it, just breathe, relax and realize that pain is doing a work in you. It’s cutting something out of you that is keeping you from the life that God really wants you to have.
Now, I know you’re gonna have to listen. You’re all looking at me like, because, you know, we can have meetings. I can get up here and I can shout and I can get you so excited, get you jumping up and down, running around the building. But I don’t care if you like it or not tonight, I want you to let it change your life and you can like me a little bit later if you want to. Amen? God, I was such a mess when Dave and I got married. Such a mess. I mean, the way that I acted was ridiculous. And I went to church every Sunday. And if I didn’t get my way, I had a drug habit, but my drug of choice was getting my way, getting what I wanted when I wanted it. Come on, this can’t be that shocking. You’re all like… does anybody out there ever get upset when you don’t get your way? Thank you. No wonder you’re quiet.
Die to Self – Elevate God's Word
So, dying to self literally means that «I’m gonna have thoughts, but if I think something that doesn’t agree with God’s word, then what I think has to go and God’s word takes precedence over that». If I say, «Well, I feel and what I feel doesn’t agree with God’s word, then I don’t live according to that feeling, I live according to the Word of God». Don’t be a kind of Christian who just does what you think you can get by with and still slip into heaven. Be the kind of Christian that wants to glorify God here on this earth and you want your life to make other people want to have what you have. And I encourage you to start getting some books. And some of you have them, but if you haven’t, don’t just buy books that are just gonna make you laugh and giggle and make you feel good.
It’s great to have books that tell you how much God loves you. It’s great to have books that tell you who you are in Christ. I’m gonna write one in the next year because you are a masterpiece of God. And if you know who you are in Christ, then you can take all the correction that God wants to give you because you already know that you’re loved and that he’s never going to give up on you. So, those things are very important, but we also need to read books on holiness. We need to read books on discipline. Come on. We need to read books on self-control. We need to read books on the Fruit of the Spirit. We need to read books on obedience and dying to self. I’ve been doing this a long time, so I can kind of tell where our congregation is at with what I’m preaching.
And I can tell you, not to be insulting at all, but I can tell you that a lot of people in this building have never even thought very much about selfishness being a problem. I could tell by the way you’re responding and the way you’re absorbing and looking. And I’m sure you’ve done some thinking since last night. And it’s kind of interesting that we don’t see that as being important when it’s one of the most important things Jesus said. «If you wanna be my disciple and follow me, you have to [forget yourself, lose sight of yourself and all your own interests] And take up your cross and follow me». And we’ve turned that cross into something that it’s not and never was.
Embrace Hard Times – They Shape Us
God wants you to have a good life. He doesn’t want the devil messing up your life. The enemy comes in and he does things, and sometimes God doesn’t remove them as fast as we’d like him to because he uses it to bring you to a higher place in him. How many of you have learned more about God in the hard times in your life than you ever did in the easy times? How many of you have come closer to God in the hard times of your life than the easy times? So, if that’s the case, why do we fight against those times so much and why do we hate them so much? Why can’t we just learn, «Something good is gonna come out of this»? «This is gonna work out good in my life, so God, I’m gonna breathe and I’m just gonna go with it and I’m asking you to use it for your purpose and do what you want to do in me».
We have to stop running from everything that is hard. We have to stop running from everything that hurts and trust God that whatever happens in your life, he loves you and he is going to work it out for your good and it’s only gonna make you a better person. Amen? Alright. Galatians 2:20, Paul said, «I’ve been crucified with Christ [in him I have shared his crucifixion]: it is no longer I who live, but Christ (the Messiah) lives in me: and the life I now live in the body I live by faith in (by adherence to, reliance on, and complete trust in) the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself up for me». So, this scripture that many of you know very well is talking about exactly what I’m talking about here this weekend, but somehow, we read that and I don’t know if we just think it’s nice that Paul died to self, but this is something that we need to apply to our lives.