Mensa Otabil - The Lips of the Wise
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We’ve had a very long two weeks of study around wisdom. We’ve tried to define what it is, looked at how it works, and examined different attributes that make us seem wise as well as those that do not. So, we are ending our study on wisdom for the time being today. Next week, I will start something new, and we will discuss the lips of the wise.
Proverbs chapter 10, verse 19 states: «In the multitude of words, sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise.»
One of the ways we make mistakes in life is through what we say. The passage appropriately says that where there are many words, sin is not lacking; sin is very easy to come our way. But if we’re able to control what we say, we are seen as wise people. People evaluate us on three main levels when they perceive us. First, they make judgments about who you are based on your appearance-what you’re wearing, how you carry yourself, and your physical appearance. Secondly, when you start speaking, they evaluate you by your words, whether they are wise or not. Finally, they assess your actions. Of the three, I believe your words leave the deepest impression on people.
When people see your appearance, they know that appearances can be deceptive. However, when people listen to you and hear you speak, they can weigh your wisdom before you even have the chance to act. Therefore, words are very important. Words will indicate whether you are diligent or lazy. If you give a job to someone, their response will tell you whether they are diligent or lazy, whether they are trustworthy or deceitful. All of these are evaluated through our words. Thus, the way we use our words is crucial to our wisdom. I want to encourage each one of us in three key areas.
First, make intelligent contributions when speaking. We don’t just speak because words need to be used; we speak because something important needs to be said. I know that some people are temperamentally more outgoing and express themselves more freely than others who are quieter. I understand this. If you are temperamentally someone who needs to express yourself, then you must be very wise and pack a lot of wisdom into what you say so that people don’t disregard you or sideline you simply because they feel your words do not carry weight. When making contributions, let’s strive for intelligent contributions. Think through the processes required to make the right intervention.
Secondly, a wise person does not speak rashly. We don’t just jump to conclusions. Some people jump to conclusions easily; they believe quickly, doubt quickly, and get angry quickly. Everything is very fast-paced. If it’s your temperament, let’s put in the effort to slow down our reactions so we don’t react too rashly or without consideration. We must restrain our mouths, as the prophet says.
Thirdly, we must speak with discretion. This is something I want to emphasize, especially concerning those who are tale-bearers. You meet with one person, then relay the same conversation to another person who was not there. You enter someone’s presence, and soon everyone knows what was discussed. The Bible calls you a tale-bearer, and soon nobody will trust you with anything precious because you spill secrets immediately after leaving their presence. Therefore, we must speak with discretion. We should honor what people tell us and not betray their confidences.
To summarize practical steps, let us speak wisely with intelligent contributions. Let’s avoid speaking rashly, and let us speak with discretion. If we can control our tongues, we can control our whole bodies and lives. I trust that these messages on wisdom have provided you with ideas on how we can improve our lives and make them better than they are now.
Let us pray. Say with me: «Heavenly Father, help me to speak wisely at all times. Teach my tongue the words of wisdom. In Jesus' name, amen.» I will be with you again tomorrow, which is next week. I’m Pastor Mensa Otabil. Shalom, peace, and life to you.